Each year, Porn Hub creates a “year in review” highlighting trends and stats based on their visitor’s viewing habits.
This year’s trend report was more exciting to me than usual because I was actually a bit thrilled by one of the top “Searches that Defined 2021”.
Number one was Hentai*, but it was Number 2 that made me want to celebrate. Want to make a guess?
I would have thought, threesomes, pirates or nurse, lol. But I’d have been totally wrong!
It was: Romance.
Yup, searches for “Romance” and “Romantic” on Porn Hub more than doubled in 2021. And the term “passionate” had an increase of 139%, as well.
You know what that says to me?
I’m not the only one hungry for romance- and… people who watch porn have hearts too!
It’s a good reminder that almost all of us are looking for that connection, even when we’re watching porn.
So if you’re wondering how porn can play a healthy, happy part of your romantic, sexy life…
Find ethical porn options such as the ones included in this article so you don’t have to worry about any of the performers being exploited:
And then here are five ideas to incorporate porn in a meaningful way:
- Search for a clip that reminds you of one of your favorite sexual experiences with your partner. Did y’all have racy experience on a road trip? Next time you take some time for yourself, search “road trip tease” and pick a clip that gets your juices flowing.
- If you find a particularly enjoyable clip when you’re enjoying solo pleasure, , send it to your partner and let them know you what you were thinking about … and what you were doing. 😈 I know this can feel scary, but I say…there’s no shame in loving yourself, so why not share the sexy fun with your partner?
- Search for a performer that is visually similar to your partner. This works especially well in those times when y’all are separated and you’re missing your connection. If your partner is thick-thighed, with little boobs and a mop of curly red hair? Search for those things and celebrate them while you enjoy your video.
- And then, you know what I’m gonna say here, right? Lol. Share that pic or clip with your partner! . Tell her how sexy that red head on camera looks and how much you think of them while watching. Tell her that you missed playing with her “just a handful” titties and grabbing her ass as she explodes around your cock. After a couple messages like that, they’ll probably want some solo time of their own!
- Watch something together. One evening, just sit down in front of a screen and start searching for stuff. Search your secret kinks, your deepest fantasies, or just a random word. Maybe even take turns picking what you watch so you each get a sense of what the other is interested in, or curious about. 😏
I think the key to healthy porn watching (and self pleasure, and extracurricular relationships and so many other things) is that it shouldn’t be a secret. When you’re willing to share with your partner, porn isn’t a replacement for your connection, it’s simply an enhancer. As adult humans, we are created to enjoy intimate pleasure; you are entitled to enjoy sexy fun with intention and pleasure, and no shame.
It’s time for all of us to celebrate our innate desire for intimate pleasure, and to be proud of doing so in healthy, happy and helpful ways.
Cheers to good love always!
💜💜💜 Beth
*I had to look this up, lol! Defined as: a genre of Japanese manga and anime characterized by overtly sexualized characters and sexually explicit images and plots.)
